Детская независимость: свобода или бесконтрольность?
Ребенка надо контролировать – постулат, не вызывающий сомнений у большинства родителей. Во взрослом возрасте всякий родитель желает видеть своего ребенка сильным, успешным, независимым. В каком возрасте ребенку необходимо предоставить свободу? Какую степень свободы? Где заканчивается необходимая свобода и начинается бесконтрольность? Как установить разумные рамки родительской опеки?
Вопросы сложнейшие. Мы кормим их с ложечки, потому что они маленькие, помогаем делать уроки, потому что им трудно, корректируем выбор друзей, досуга, потому что мы лучше знаем, что для них лучше. Мы всегда хотим, как лучше. А как получается в реальной жизни?
Во взрослом возрасте люди, которых чрезмерно опекали в детстве, страдают депрессиями, подвержены паническим атакам. К такому выводу пришли специалисты из Университета Мэри Вашингтон. Они проанализировали поведение 297 молодых людей в возрасте от 18 до 23 лет. Те, кого родители контролировали денно и нощно, плохо ладят с окружающими, подвержены депрессии, не уверены в собственных силах.
Значит ли это, что дети должны быть полностью предоставлены сами себе? Ни в коем случае. Недолюбленные дети – это проблемные взрослые. Специалисты из Университета Торонто исследовали 400 канадских семей. Выявлена закономерность: если ребенок не чувствовал себя в детстве любимым, видел, что родители, например, больше любят его брата или сестру, став взрослым такой недолюбленный человек страдает психическими расстройствами, не может добиться карьерных успехов, часто испытывает финансовые затруднения. Кстати, оказалось, что к выделению самого любимого ребенка в семье чаще склонны женщины, а не мужчины.
Существует еще одна опасность уже чисто медицинского характера: часто произносимое родителями слово «нельзя» в буквальном смысле вредно для здоровья. Негативные эмоции, связанные с запретами в детстве, увеличивают вероятность серьезных проблем с сердечно-сосудистой системой во взрослом возрасте. Так, во всяком случае, полагают британские кардиологи.
Так какой же вывод надо сделать нам, родителям? Старый как мир: чувство меры. Оно должно быть во всем. Кормить с ложечки до пяти лет – также глупо, как диктовать 15-летнему подростку, с кем ему лучше дружить. Ребенка надо любить, но нельзя устраивать террор собственной любовью. Помогать, но не бросаться все делать за него. Вседозволенность неприемлема, но надо попытаться объяснить, почему вот это – нельзя, а это – можно.
Попробуем с малого? Вот вы уже открыли рот, чтобы сказать дочке, как ей не идет эта челка. Стоп! Спросите сперва, почему челка именно такая? Выяснится, что у модной певицы ( актрисы, популярной девочки в школе) точно такая же. И вот вам возможность подружиться с дочерью. Попробуйте объяснить девочке, что у кумира – совершенно другой типаж. Наверняка, есть не менее модная певица, чью челку можно скопировать без ущерба для внешности.
И – самое главное. Даже если у вас в этот раз не получилось переубедить ребенка, не спешите кричать: - Я тебе запрещаю! Вы же взрослый человек! Подумайте, речь идет только о челке. Стоит ли из-за такой ерунды портить нервы себе и, главное, ребенку?
У вас все получится. Постепенно. Вот увидите!
Три варианта завтрака для первоклассника
Многие родители знают, как трудно заставить ребенка позавтракать. Попробуйте привычные блюда превратить в аппетитные дессерты - вот увидите, ребенок с удовольствием их съест.
Как грамотно завершить грудное вскармливание
Кормлению грудью часто становится проблемой - и не только когда у женщины молока мало, но и в том случае, когда молока много. Бывает, что мама кормит ребенка грудью до двух, а то и до трех лет. Хорошо это или плохо? И как завершить кормление, чтобы не травмировать ребенка?
Трудности первого класса
В первый раз в первый класс - это одновременно и праздник, и стресс. Даже если ребенок психологически подготовлен к школе, мамам и папам нужно понимать, что трудности на первом году обучения - естественны.
Наука для вашего ребенка
Дорогие мамы и папы! Если вы хотите, чтобы ваше чадо не воспринимало науку, как что-то скучное и нудное, приведите его на Фестиваль Увлекательной науки.
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|Guest, 20.02.2013 16:47:45|
Вы забыли о главном: собственному ребенку надо доверять. Если вы ему не доверяете, окружающие тем более не будут.
|Guest, 20.02.2013 20:00:38|
Вы предлагаете пустить детей на самотек? И что из них вырастет?!
|gjawlrln, 03.09.2015 07:19:39|
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How much longer must we put up with the negative play from a very poor Sunderland team surely the board can see mr Poyet is suppressing and strangling every ounce of creativity out of the team and it is horrible to watch.Why don't the board sack the manager and all the players and install the Blyth Spartan. Team and management at least there would be real fight from the players instead of the dross turned out by the overpaid se t of prima Donna's.that represent a once proud club.
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That said, there were other issues at play at the weekend, and as he assesses the squad he has inherited for his survival mission, Dick Advocaat will surely be concluding that it is all too easy to see why Sunderland have spent the best part of two seasons battling against the drop.
|gjpviejm, 03.09.2015 07:24:43|
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|gjbotrhm, 03.09.2015 09:10:03|
Why let things like evidence get in the way of your opinions. It is obvious that the current way of dealing with drugs isn't working, so why not try a programme such the one Durham Police are trialling? Why not go a step further and legalise drugs? Have them available from state approved suppliers who can ensure a reliable product which hasn't had cat litter or drain cleaner added. The tax raised can be used to fund the NHS or drug treatment centres.
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|nusfsdmul, 03.09.2015 10:24:53|
As for Werda it has been just that. He plays the game with his kids and hopes to play in the Paralympics one day. The game and the guys have taught him anything is possible.
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|gjnfhrdg, 03.09.2015 15:46:36|
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|ivohiergw, 04.09.2015 03:03:38|
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UW (10-18, 3-13 Big Ten) had two chances to win at the end of regulation. Taylor Wurtz missed a jumper in the lane with 3 seconds remaining but the Badgers got the ball with .02 seconds left after a tie-up.
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